We’ve all had conversations in which the issue associated with unfaithfulness is discussed and recently I had such a discussion with a friend who was sharing with me that her spouse was in fact utilising her bank card to pay for talks with an adult provider and that the concept he was using her cash to purchase sex was what had truly annoyed her “At least they were inexpensive phone sex discussions” my good friend ultimately said concerning all those phonesex discussions he had been taking pleasure in without telling her, as though he should really be congratulated for acute sense of financial propriety for picking low-cost phone sex chats instead of higher priced adult phone numbers! I had to finally ask her if the cost of his “indiscretions” was the main reason for being irritated, all things considered, if perhaps my own man had been sleaze-bag having adult one-on-one intimate chats with other females, I predict I would have become furious about the whole thing!
“I’ll tell you what” she said finally… “Not necessarily. I mean in the early stages I suppose I was, After all he was getting in touch with various other girls to fill needs that I was supposed to be filling, nonetheless I concluded there was really no harm done. He was calling people he had never seen in his life, to act on fantasy impulses that I might be uncomfortable with and I suppose that I did feel awkward, but also understanding.
Let’s be honest, you and I go out on ladies nights ever week, and you know what we talk about sometimes and how sexually charged our gossips can get, so what’s the difference?”
I was really intrigued by her reaction, or lack thereof. I mean who would have thought that my friend, my dear loyal friend who was always the quietest during those nights out she had just referred to could be so understanding, so broad minded. How she had taken all of this was a revelation. She actually didn’t mind and saw that he had been talking to invisible women, and such they had no immediate effect on her relationship. “He is calling fantasy lines” she added and she was right.
Had I not caught my own husband watching porn on several occasions, without me? “Bob (my husband) watches porn and I’ve caught him many times”! I reminded myself. “I can understand your point of view though since when that happen, I was angry with him, not because he was watching porn, but because he was doing it without me”!
I didn’t have time to continue saying what I wanted to say because my friend interrupted me:
“As I said, the fact that he used my credit card was what really annoyed me. I had a go at him for that, made him stew for a while and when I was feeling more forgiving, I told him that next time he felt the need to entertain himself like that, he should ask me to participate! After all, why shouldn’t I be allowed some extra fun from time to time!”
I was taken aback! After al, this was the woman who was my innocent adorable childhood friend I was speaking to. The lady who had her first kiss a whole twelve months after I got mine… The girl who lost her virginity after she went to college when all of us had become “women” years before. And here she was sharing with that she and her man were engaged in some 3some phone affairs. It was insane… And fascinating.
“Don’t tell me that you did!” I asked her!
“Of course I did! And I loved it. It was quite an experience and all I can tell you is that you should try it!”